Comments on: 9 Ways To Stop Overthinking Everything http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/ Find flow, fight fear, and create focus! Mon, 06 Feb 2012 02:32:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: mitch http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-2/#comment-5474 mitch Thu, 02 Feb 2012 11:51:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5474 I didn't take any of the things to heart in this article except the " let it go " type of reaction, and it seems to help, I also am a male with this problem.. but Ive been this way for years, always thinking " Why am I even doing this?" then think about littler parts of that.. and so on until I am depressed about it.. I didn’t take any of the things to heart in this article except the ” let it go ” type of reaction, and it seems to help, I also am a male with this problem.. but Ive been this way for years, always thinking ” Why am I even doing this?” then think about littler parts of that.. and so on until I am depressed about it..

]]> By: Mike Torres http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-2/#comment-5473 Mike Torres Wed, 01 Feb 2012 00:26:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5473 Yes srai - there are both therapists and medication that may help.  I'd strongly recommend talking to someone ASAP - this list isn't meant to be medical advice, it's just basic advice for overthinkers - but if you think there's something more serious going on, you should talk to someone right away. Yes srai – there are both therapists and medication that may help.  I’d strongly recommend talking to someone ASAP – this list isn’t meant to be medical advice, it’s just basic advice for overthinkers – but if you think there’s something more serious going on, you should talk to someone right away.

]]> By: srai http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-2/#comment-5472 srai Tue, 31 Jan 2012 06:41:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5472 I wonder if this is a medical condition.because I am the happiest person there is but I over think everything..lately its been about my friend who use to hang out with me everyday and now we talk but rarely hang out and all i do is think about what I did wrong and my fiance tells me nothing that I just over think everything...im the type of person who can be perfectly fine with a situation but then i start thinking about it and the more i think about it the more upset/angry/mad/sad i get and I cant stop doing it...i think 24/7 and just wish i could live life as is!!!! ive tried the things you wrote about which are brilliant and some help but  overthinking is making more and more sad/depressed as time goes by and harder and harder to fight....is there medicine or a type of therapist for this kind of thing...please help!! I wonder if this is a medical condition.because I am the happiest person there is but I over think everything..lately its been about my friend who use to hang out with me everyday and now we talk but rarely hang out and all i do is think about what I did wrong and my fiance tells me nothing that I just over think everything…im the type of person who can be perfectly fine with a situation but then i start thinking about it and the more i think about it the more upset/angry/mad/sad i get and I cant stop doing it…i think 24/7 and just wish i could live life as is!!!! ive tried the things you wrote about which are brilliant and some help but  overthinking is making more and more sad/depressed as time goes by and harder and harder to fight….is there medicine or a type of therapist for this kind of thing…please help!!

]]> By: Vikram http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-2/#comment-5470 Vikram Thu, 26 Jan 2012 06:43:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5470 after years of thinking, and overthinking i realized that i have been obsessively overthinker your detailed article on this topic is lot of help thanks will be grateful if you ever found anymore ideas to share on this topic though i will try to do things to avoid overthinking after years of thinking, and overthinking i realized that i have been obsessively overthinker

your detailed article on this topic is lot of help
thanks

will be grateful if you ever found anymore ideas to share on this topic
though i will try to do things to avoid overthinking

]]> By: Lovcalgal http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-2/#comment-5468 Lovcalgal Tue, 24 Jan 2012 21:53:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5468 Amazing post and brilliantly written. I'm sure it took some thinking to process all that information. :) But I found it very helpful and I know, now, that I am not alone with this habit. I am going to do my best to actively use this information. Thank you! I have to say, though, that some of the best material is produced by people who think thoroughly through things. It's both a gift and a curse, but needs to have some boundaries put in place. Overthinking life will not create the life you want to live. It's about DOING! Thanks again, Amazing post and brilliantly written. I’m sure it took some thinking to process all that information. :) But I found it very helpful and I know, now, that I am not alone with this habit. I am going to do my best to actively use this information. Thank you! I have to say, though, that some of the best material is produced by people who think thoroughly through things. It’s both a gift and a curse, but needs to have some boundaries put in place. Overthinking life will not create the life you want to live. It’s about DOING!
Thanks again,

]]> By: M&M http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-2/#comment-5466 M&M Mon, 23 Jan 2012 16:54:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5466 Wow! know i understan better why and what makes me overthing and how to make right . Thank you! Wow! know i understan better why and what makes me overthing and how to make right .
Thank you!

]]> By: Dillon Morton http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-2/#comment-5458 Dillon Morton Sat, 31 Dec 2011 16:25:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5458 I overthink and i've realized I've done this most of my life. I'm a perfectionist and I have this fear that I'll get into trouble if I don't do something right. I think it started with my mom because she has stress and impatience and is also a perfectionist. I need to change, and enjoy myself. I'm also struggling a little bit with finding my identity. It's tough relating to others as well when you don't really know completely what you want. I do things: Play piano, guitar, exercising, singing, music, but I don't stay in the loop since half the time I don't know a subject. I want to change and find something where I completely fit in and understand. I'm looking at college as my big break :) I overthink and i’ve realized I’ve done this most of my life. I’m a perfectionist and I have this fear that I’ll get into trouble if I don’t do something right. I think it started with my mom because she has stress and impatience and is also a perfectionist. I need to change, and enjoy myself. I’m also struggling a little bit with finding my identity. It’s tough relating to others as well when you don’t really know completely what you want. I do things: Play piano, guitar, exercising, singing, music, but I don’t stay in the loop since half the time I don’t know a subject. I want to change and find something where I completely fit in and understand. I’m looking at college as my big break :)

]]> By: nick http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-2/#comment-5455 nick Fri, 30 Dec 2011 05:52:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5455 I always overthink the dumbest things, always with my girlfriend though. She gives me every reason to believe that she loves me as much as she says but with my ovethinking I always pick out the tinyest details that she does and I create a little scenario in my head. Like ill tell her "you mean the world to me" and ill get a really?! That's so sweet, she never gives emotion back or when I tell her she's perfect, shell just respond with "really?" I don't expect her to call me perfect back but she doesn't even give me a type of respond I give her. I always think its because ill never be better than her ex boyfriend, I feel like she use to tell him that he was perect or that he meant the world to her and now she doesn't tell me these things when she will tell me that I'm the best boyfriend she's had but hey anybody can tell a little lie to keep a relationship happy, someone tell me something! I always overthink the dumbest things, always with my girlfriend though. She gives me every reason to believe that she loves me as much as she says but with my ovethinking I always pick out the tinyest details that she does and I create a little scenario in my head. Like ill tell her “you mean the world to me” and ill get a really?! That’s so sweet, she never gives emotion back or when I tell her she’s perfect, shell just respond with “really?” I don’t expect her to call me perfect back but she doesn’t even give me a type of respond I give her. I always think its because ill never be better than her ex boyfriend, I feel like she use to tell him that he was perect or that he meant the world to her and now she doesn’t tell me these things when she will tell me that I’m the best boyfriend she’s had but hey anybody can tell a little lie to keep a relationship happy, someone tell me something!

]]> By: Hayward http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-2/#comment-5454 Hayward Fri, 30 Dec 2011 03:16:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5454 After all of this time, I suddenly just realized that I have a problem. I want to use this to work on my own character, I like the thought of being able to just go through life without always thinking wondering something wrong is going to happen, trying to prevent everything and being perfect. I am going to use these tips, I pray it works, I feel like my relationships are riding on this in fact... After all of this time, I suddenly just realized that I have a problem. I want to use this to work on my own character, I like the thought of being able to just go through life without always thinking wondering something wrong is going to happen, trying to prevent everything and being perfect. I am going to use these tips, I pray it works, I feel like my relationships are riding on this in fact…

]]> By: qstraq http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-2/#comment-5449 qstraq Thu, 22 Dec 2011 15:54:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5449 i totally agree with .8. its working for me years now,, ill really work with .9. seems like a good approach.. only fear for me can be a point when nothing will matter... =) that doesnt sound that good. i totally agree with .8. its working for me years now,, ill really work with .9. seems like a good approach.. only fear for me can be a point when nothing will matter… =) that doesnt sound that good.

]]> By: Kerith http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-2/#comment-5446 Kerith Thu, 15 Dec 2011 21:47:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5446 Thank You. Really, it helped me a lot. Thank You. Really, it helped me a lot.

]]> By: Mike Torres http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-2/#comment-5441 Mike Torres Sun, 27 Nov 2011 18:00:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5441 I think a general approach could be that if there's something that's 100% in your control to resolve through a specific action - especially if that action is small and has big payoff - you should just perform the action.  For instance, in this case, I would just call the airline right now ;) I think a general approach could be that if there’s something that’s 100% in your control to resolve through a specific action – especially if that action is small and has big payoff – you should just perform the action.  For instance, in this case, I would just call the airline right now ;)

]]> By: Ben200 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-2/#comment-5440 Ben200 Sun, 27 Nov 2011 13:58:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5440 These ways are really helpful. However, I still have an issue with overthinking. I don't over think when the solution is in my hands or the problem can be only a result of my actions. But I do over think when I'm afraid that someone else would ruin my plans. Take this example; I just booked a flight to NYC to have a meeting with someone, then I got the confirmation for my booking in the email, however, after the transaction has made, I got the money back in my bank account for no reason. Now it's weekend, so I'll over think all weekend about what's wrong and whether I will have problems and miss the flight. Any suggestion how to deal with this kind of overthinking? These ways are really helpful. However, I still have an issue with overthinking. I don’t over think when the solution is in my hands or the problem can be only a result of my actions. But I do over think when I’m afraid that someone else would ruin my plans. Take this example; I just booked a flight to NYC to have a meeting with someone, then I got the confirmation for my booking in the email, however, after the transaction has made, I got the money back in my bank account for no reason. Now it’s weekend, so I’ll over think all weekend about what’s wrong and whether I will have problems and miss the flight. Any suggestion how to deal with this kind of overthinking?

]]> By: Oceanloveart http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-2/#comment-5438 Oceanloveart Wed, 23 Nov 2011 14:01:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5438 I'm in my late fifties and have been overthinking for more years that I want to confess. I process things that happen in life and at work.  I have started to write my thoughts down. Helps me sleep better. I’m in my late fifties and have been overthinking for more years that I want to confess. I process things that happen in life and at work.  I have started to write my thoughts down. Helps me sleep better.

]]> By: Heather http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-1/#comment-5434 Heather Mon, 31 Oct 2011 08:05:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5434 I say - get off social networking. It's not worth the trouble. I'm not just trying to be in opposition for the sake of being in opposition either. I'm saying it because at the end of the day, if you spend too much time on any sort of social networking, you'll be consumed by it and there's no gain. You'll be happier if you spend your time on something better. And I'm saying it as one who has been there, not trolling just to irritate people. I say – get off social networking. It’s not worth the trouble. I’m not just trying to be in opposition for the sake of being in opposition either. I’m saying it because at the end of the day, if you spend too much time on any sort of social networking, you’ll be consumed by it and there’s no gain. You’ll be happier if you spend your time on something better. And I’m saying it as one who has been there, not trolling just to irritate people.

]]> By: Neo92777 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-2/#comment-5431 Neo92777 Fri, 21 Oct 2011 15:03:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5431 my own thoughts lead me to feel that over thinking does "impair problem solving and rational thought" but is "rational" not based on social standings of our time. and our time in history being a time of great intelligence would it not be rational to say that over thinking to the point of figuring out is in fact acceptable. but thin the point is made that this leads to "permeating negative thoughts and fostering a pessimistic view of the situation" to which i think yes but only because to pander anything to the point of madness is to realize that everything is in fact ultimately flawed. but then to wipe this thought from your mind using these 9 steps is acceptable and recommended by the very same intelligence that uses this over thinking  process to cure  diseases and illness. so i stand at a paradox in my own mind. i submit to u which is better to make effort and become blissfully ignorant. or give to necessity of an evolving world At any rate i by no means am saying that what you have wrote is wrong or unhelpful, but unfortunately/fortunately for me this will simply stand to be another self conversation in my uphill battle within my on mind. thank you my own thoughts lead me to feel that over thinking does “impair problem solving and rational thought” but is “rational” not based on social standings of our time. and our time in history being a time of great intelligence would it not be rational to say that over thinking to the point of figuring out is in fact acceptable. but thin the point is made that this leads to “permeating negative thoughts and fostering a pessimistic view of the situation” to which i think yes but only because to pander anything to the point of madness is to realize that everything is in fact ultimately flawed. but then to wipe this thought from your mind using these 9 steps is acceptable and recommended by the very same intelligence that uses this over thinking  process to cure  diseases and illness. so i stand at a paradox in my own mind. i submit to u which is better to make effort and become blissfully ignorant. or give to necessity of an evolving world
At any rate i by no means am saying that what you have wrote is wrong or unhelpful, but unfortunately/fortunately for me this will simply stand to be another self conversation in my uphill battle within my on mind.
thank you

]]> By: Elliott http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-2/#comment-5429 Elliott Wed, 19 Oct 2011 16:48:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5429 Helped me loads! Helped me loads!

]]> By: Sawersss http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-2/#comment-5428 Sawersss Wed, 19 Oct 2011 02:40:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5428 why would i stop overthinking at this point it makes me not vonerable to emotion because i have already thought of everything that can happen so there is no surprise so no reason to feel everything so i can minipulate it into the most positive outcome so that the thought of beining sad is not prevalent in my mind i just dont know if all of the emotions i have suppressed over the years are going to eventualy come out or if i can actualy convince myself of a alternate reality where those events dident even happen because i dont even know what my past is anymore all i know is what the present is and i want it to be positive and i want to effect it in a positive way and the only way i can stay positive is if i analyze everything so that nothing can make me sad why would i stop overthinking at this point it makes me not vonerable to emotion because i have already thought of everything that can happen so there is no surprise so no reason to feel everything so i can minipulate it into the most positive outcome so that the thought of beining sad is not prevalent in my mind i just dont know if all of the emotions i have suppressed over the years are going to eventualy come out or if i can actualy convince myself of a alternate reality where those events dident even happen because i dont even know what my past is anymore all i know is what the present is and i want it to be positive and i want to effect it in a positive way and the only way i can stay positive is if i analyze everything so that nothing can make me sad

]]> By: obje http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-2/#comment-5425 obje Sat, 15 Oct 2011 00:11:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5425 Just saved my life! Thank You! Just saved my life! Thank You!

]]> By: Rachel http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/comment-page-1/#comment-5421 Rachel Fri, 30 Sep 2011 03:30:00 +0000 http://www.refocuser.com/2009/08/9-ways-to-stop-overthinking-everything/#comment-5421 amber this is my story to a T, im glad somebody else can relate to me like you can. amber this is my story to a T, im glad somebody else can relate to me like you can.

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