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Click for photo If you’re someone who spends a lot of time “in your own head” mulling over things ad nauseam, you may think you’re alone.  You’re not… Not by a long shot!

Overthinking is a natural part of life for many of us, even when we’re not aware we’re doing it.  Research has shown that overthinking is prevalent in young and middle aged adults, with 73% of 25-35 year-olds identified as overthinkers.  More women (57%) find themselves overthinking than men (43%), which is a significant difference.  This means the majority of women are overthinkers, and the majority of overthinkers are women

I’m not a woman, but I am an overthinker.  So I guess I’m in the minority… a vocal minority ;)  If you find yourself spending an unreasonable amount of time thinking through something, twisting it around in your head until you’ve seen it from every angle and possibility, chances are you too are an overthinker.

There are very few benefits to being an overthinker.  Being logical (and therefore unemotional) about taking action has a lot of merit and can have positive results, but there’s a difference between thinking about something just enough – and thinking about something to the point of analysis paralysis.  The short of it is, you don’t want to be an overthinker!

Overthinking can occur as a consequence of a decision that needs to be made, big or small, and is typically exacerbated in stressful situations.  It’s not limited to decision making however, as it can also rear it’s ugly head whenever something has the ability to cause any level of anxiety or worry.  It’s the proverbial thing that “keeps you up at night” and stems from an actual or perceived lack of control over some aspect of life.  With a lack of control comes a feeling of helplessness. Overthinking is frequently the direct result.  The worst overthinkers actually spend time overthinking seemingly meaningless things to the point that they’ve spent more time thinking about the thing than the time it would have taken to address it completely.  What a waste of time and energy!

There have been a number of studies over the past 20 years that challenge the view that overthinking equates to better decisions and therefore improved happiness and success.  Specifically these studies have found that overthinkers are more prone to sustained sadness and negative thinking.  And though it may seem that thinking through problems to the extreme would result in better decisions, overthinking has actually been shown to impair problem solving and rational thought, and interfere with initiative and motivation.

What’s worse is that people aren’t clued in to the dangers of overthinking.  Most people feel they’re making progress while cogitating endlessly, but in fact they’re permeating negative thoughts and fostering a pessimistic view of the situation.  As we know, “we are what we think”, and for those stuck in the cycle of overthinking, they’re reinforcing this adverse thought process and letting it trickle into other areas of thought.

If you got this far, chances are you’ve identified yourself as an overthinker. Which means right now you’re probably wondering what the heck you can do about it?  If you were to stop reading right now, you’d probably go off thinking that you have a problem – and then spend the rest of the week wondering how this affects your thinking, what you could do to “fix it”.  And again, you’d be overthinking it! 

Overthinking isn’t something you’re born doing, it’s a learned habit you form over time, probably as a defense mechanism to the possibility of failure.  So before going any further, let’s see what we can do about it.

If you find yourself overthinking, you need to change the channel in your mind immediately.  Simple, right?  It mostly is.  The caveat here is that while the solution is simple, putting it into action takes ongoing practice.  But just like most things, the more you do this, the better you’ll get at it next time and the time after that.  Here are some ways you can change your current thought process:

  1. Avoid situations and people that can lead to overthinking.  You can do this based on history – you can probably determine which situations are going to keep you up at night unnecessarily.  Or do this based on how something makes you feel prior to participating.  This takes some self-awareness, but it isn’t unlike what an alcoholic has to do in order to stay sober.  They avoid the people, places, and things that put them into that mental state.
  2. Talk to yourself.  Rather, don’t talk to yourself in the way you’ve been talking to yourself; “level up” your self-talk.  When you have something on your mind and you can’t shake it, stay aware of your thought process… You may find it surprising how often the topic pops up.  You may also be surprised to find that overthinking is more likely to occur with negative thoughts, which means you’re fixating on the wrong things to help you overcome the situation.  Every time you find yourself overthinking something, especially when it’s negative, think instead, “This isn’t helping.  What would help is…” and replace it with a positive affirmation.  Do this each and every time.
  3. Commit to a project that maps to your goals.  Find a happy person and chances are you’ll find at least one active project that aligns with their core values.  If you’re able to focus your energy on something that matters to you instead of on the repetitive monotony of unhelpfulness, you may find yourself thinking less and less about the thing you want to avoid.
  4. Distract yourself.  Get out, do something, and get your mind off of the thing you can’t stop thinking about.  It’s possible to do this… you just have to be willing to give it a shot, which is probably the trickiest part (convincing yourself to do it).  The best way I’ve found to distract myself is to exercise – for whatever reason it’s hard for me to overthink when I’m sweating – but spending time with your family, going on a drive, or just sitting still and breathing work as well.  The best distractions are ones in which you can find the flow state.  Find your favorite distraction and do it!
  5. Enforce a time limit to your thinking and document your thoughts.  If you’re going to overthink, just commit to it for a short amount of time.  Give yourself permission to overthink, but only for 15 minutes.  Set a timer, grab a pen and paper, and for the entire 15 minutes, write down everything that comes to your mind.  Don’t stop to correct yourself (pretend there’s no eraser or backspace key), it doesn’t matter what you’re writing.  You’re just letting yourself get it all out.  When the 15 minutes are up, crumple up the paper and throw it out (or safely burn it) and move onto something else.  Something fun.
  6. Turn overthinking into a next action in a project plan.  One big reason for overthinking is not knowing what comes next in order to make forward progress.  When you consider that overthinking is usually endless unstructured thinking on something, the key is to turn that energy into structured thinking.  Determining what the next possible action is you could take in order to push the boulder another inch up the mountain could free you from thinking about everything else at once.  Crystallize your thoughts into a list of next actions and take the first step.  Add the next to your calendar or to-do list, and know that you’re making progress.
  7. Realize that being perfect isn’t possible.  Striving for perfection is a recipe for disaster, and the sooner you give up those perfectionist tendencies, the sooner you’ll move past the thing that’s occupying all your thoughts.  Perfectionism is highly overrated, and this post lists the 11 reasons why!
  8. Work through the 5 keys to overcome fear.  The most important one for overthinkers is to stop projecting the worst of what could happen.  Ask yourself what’s the absolute worst that could possibly happen – and then be OK with that outcome, coming up with appropriate responses if necessary.  This is an amazingly freeing step as almost immediately, a light bulb in your head goes off.  If the worst case scenario isn’t actually that bad, and if you know how you’d deal with it if it came to that, anxiety about that thing may disappear completely.
  9. Think about the big picture.  This is the one that has worked the best for me over the past few years.  It takes a little experience (i.e. the know-how to realize that it will indeed pass) but if you ask yourself, “Will this matter in a month/6 months/1 year?” and the answer is “No” or “Not really”, then what’s the point in thinking it to death?  If you do, in fact, determine that it will matter in a year, you can use this opportunity to leverage post-traumatic growth.  How has this experience changed you?  What have you learned from it, or how will you approach it differently next time?

Overthinking is a real detriment to focus and must be stamped out.  Forming positive habits and reinforcing them over time will make a big difference in your propensity to overthink, and these steps are some ways in which you can start to do that.  Let me know how it works!

(One way I’ve stopped overthinking and trying to perfect this post is to close my laptop without rereading it and get outside – it’s Sunday afternoon.  I’ll read it once more in the morning and then post it.)

Written by Mike Torres

August 24th, 2009 at 6:45 am

  • ho

    In my opinion over thinking is not a simple problem. It’s a very complicated thing and it’s a global problem.

  • ANONYMOUS

    Sometimes it’s a huge problem to over think, It’s hard to get out of it, But you can overthink why you are overthinking the think that you are overthinking and then the overthinking will go away.

    You should try it out, It helped me stopping overthinking my overthinking.

    Well after overthinking i overthink that you should stop overthinking why you are overthinking the overthinking that’s pretty easy i guess?

    Overthinking day everybody :P

  • ayaiansu

    hi i am a over thinker too.it disturbs my studies a lot . when i start reading i don’t know how i am in another world and when i wake up it affects my time i don’t know how to control and some time it makes me emotionally unstable.i have not tell about this anyone at home.i think this article may help me.
    :)

  • abel

    i cant stop over-thinking! whatever i do, if it turns out to be stupid and if people say something bad about it, i get upset and think about it the whole day and cant sleep with it! if people r impolite with me, i cant give a damn to it! im fucking 20 and im not supposd to be like this! i cant get distracted even if i try! i try doing all to get rid of it! from reading to jumping and gaming! its fucking frustrating! a young adult shouldnot be thinking all the time! when is the overthinking habit before doing something stupid? what the fuck is wrong with me?

  • ThinkerOver

    Oh my God. I want to hug you. Haha. I have stopped three times while reading this in aww to how accurate this is. (And just so you know, I’m only about a third of the way through this very enlightening piece of work. I just couldn’t resist the comment box.) You call my every move to the t. My life…has really been effected by overthinking…for a while. Let’s just say there’s rock bottom and you can go there and pick up that rock to find me chillin underneath. I have thrown away soooooo much…well actually pretty much everything because I couldn’t control my overthinking, including a very decent college. :/ In addition, now it’s so bad I’ve completely detached myself from the world and I can’t let anybody in, or even close. Blah..it’s rough stuff. But hey, luckily I have this Buddhist buddy who introduced me to meditating. I’m just getting into it but I’m excited to see the results I get from that. It feels good to finally feel like I’m taking some steps forward. I cant wait to obsorb the rest of this article. Anyways, I realize now that I’ve been rambling. I probably could have just left it at the hug. Lol. Also I realize now that this article is 4 years old. I do hope I’m not just talking to myself here.
    So I’m off to read… probably comment again shortly. :D

  • JayB

    Love this! This is so much help. Suffering from depression and being a overthinker is such an awful combination. I have to work at this constantly, thank you for the pointers. Im going to print them out and carry them with me.

  • jess

    Okay, I am currently overthinking a lot because last night I started feeling queasy and sick.. And my dad told me it was probably me thinking myself into getting sick because I ended up pretty much forcing myself to throw up (cause I thought it’d make me feel better) it didn’t. I couldn’t sleep, and I was shaking a lot. I woke up this morning feeling better but afraid to eat. And I know I’m overthinking myself. Thinking about “if I eat, then I’ll feel sick again” and then my heart beats fast n what not. And I keep thinking “will this feeling ever leave me.. Am I going to feel like this forever.. What if I never get back to feeling normal and not sick..” Just stuff like that. Please help :(

  • Hope

    I have this exact problem and i’m trying so so hard to calm myself but i just cant!! I’m pregnant and the father is great, but when we get into it i over think the problem so much that i cry uncontrollably, and i feel so badly about myself. I’m so terrified of ending up like my mother that i overthink everything!!! Help!!

  • KaranVK

    You want to stop overthinking?
    Easy. Stop thinking about it.

  • Rachel

    This has been a very helpful and insightful article. Cheers to you.

  • Catarina Vilar

    guy, you have just described me. and I have already thought about this cycle and it was making me mad!! but, when the overthinking comes, I usually try to write everything all at once. and then I don’t read it. and I’m also getting away from people who make me feel insecure. I have noticed that when I’m comfortable and when I’m not afraid, I don’t overthink. I just do. Also, may I ask you guys: Do you talk a lot? because I do and I think it has something to do with my overthinking

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  • ash2345

    im 19 years old i was an overthinker at the age 12 i have problem with thing like bloodpressure depression anxity n bi-poler ive been this way for awhile n ive tried stuff to stop overthinking thing n stressing my self out over the little thing i tend to run in my mind a millon time nothing seem to work for me i cant seem to shake it i tryed everything so instead i just gave up on trying because my mind dose it so much i get mad n jump on people just bc i was thinking of what they did wrong i’ll try this and i really hope it works because i hate hurting people i care about n im on no meds bc i believe in other ways to help my problems i just hope it works so i’ll give it a shot

  • Bry

    My motto for 2014 is ‘Don’t think, just do”.

    I procrastinate to the point of paralysing myself from actioning tasks due to over thinking. It is intrinsically linked to my anxiety, and goes both ways, in that my anxiety creates over thinking, and over thinking creates anxiety. I am a perfectionist and put a lot of pressure on myself to achieve high, the ironic thing is that if I didn’t put so much pressure on myself I would probably be more successful as I wouldn’t over think and debilitate myself from making progress towards my goals. All this thinking is draining and leaves me tired, with little energy to perform the actual task.

    I believe I over think because I am fearful of getting into a situation where I don’t have control, I will let someone down, I will make the wrong decision, I will not be capable of handling the situation, I will embarrass myself or I will appear stupid.

    Through work I undertook Herrmann Brain Dominance Instrument testing which profiled me as Medicated Blue: described as factual, quantitative, critical, rational, mathematical, logical and analytical. I would imagine a lot of over thinkers would also have these dominances.

    Major relief comes with medication (Citalopram 10mgs), my mind relaxes, anxiety fades, I can enjoy socialising and relationships and I am able to see things holistically rather than dissecting a task into a thousand pieces with every possible outcome, negative focus.

    Through medication, distraction, catching myself out when my thoughts are snow balling and repeating to myself: “Stop thinking, start doing” I am going to change the way I think and in turn, my life this year!

  • Brandie

    Wow thank you for letting me see I’m not the only one everyone on here all your comments I relate to them all and don’t feel so alone with this. I think so much that I fall into a depressed state (st John’s wort is a great natural antidepressant btw) just wanted to say thank you :)

  • Mike

    This is a really brilliant post. I’m 33 years old and never really thought that overthinking was a BAD thing. But I think you’re totally right. In fact, I’ll lay in bed at night thinking about anything and everything until 4 AM (usually work stuff) and it wasn’t until about a month ago that I realized that all of those thoughts almost never actually turn into an action. The cycle of thinking and rethinking just seems to be a comfort zone for me. I actually came upon this post because I have turned to alcohol to try to “turn off” my brain … but it has created more problems than solutions and so I’m reaching for a real solution to the root issue. Again … really insightful and helpful stuff. I’ve saved this in Evernote for later and I’m going to practice your suggestions.

  • M.F.

    Did the writer overthink explaining overthinking to overthinkers?

  • Darcy

    I googled overthinking because i need to do an oral representation in my english class and after hours of thinking in what can i do it……it hit me!….I’ll do it of the one thing i do most…Overthinking!!

  • Quentin

    I like this girl and she’s super pretty. I love her more than I loved any other girl in my life. I can’t find attraction to any other girl besides her. One day, I asked her friend if she’s single, just to play the game with her. The girl seems to have the same feelings as me, and her best friend likes and thinks I’m a great guy for her. Once I asked, I felt that, she might’ve told, and maybe she told this girl, and if she did I don’t want things to get awkward between us. I can’t stop over thinking this because all I wanna do is be that hero to sweep her off her feet. What should I do?

    • Hej

      Hi Quentin, first a bit of interesting biology, that may or may not help: when you are romantically interested in a girl, your serotonin levels lower slightly (a chemical that is responsible for good mood). When you think about or spend time with this girl you mood gets elevated by a different chemical that you are interpreting as ‘love’. You have or are in the process of essentially becoming addicted to this chemical that drives your attraction to this girl. While this may all seem a bit odd to say, what is acutally happening with your neurochemistry is that the longer you allow this state to continue the more and more dependent you will become on this girl, even just the though of her. -While she may or may not be blissfully unaware of your interest.

      My point is, in simpler terms, the longer you wait the more it will hurt if she does reject you, and you will be stuck in a cycle of feeling bad and thinking about her until. My advise is bite the bullet, confidently tell this girl you think she’s pretty and ask her on a date – before you get any more obsessed with her which might come across as desperate.

      The truth is that if she’s interested, then great! but if not your going to have to go through the pain of letting go and it really will be better to do that sooner than later. I promise that finding a girl who really likes you will be a million times better than just the hope of maybe, possibly, one day being with this girl you like at the moment.

      I should also point out that having just read an article about over-thinking i have tried not to over-think this response too much!

  • Silvia

    I am an obsessive overthinker to an unhealthy point. Music uses to help me. Pick silly or positive songs (Gangnam style? a commercial? Heavy Metal is my positive) and then anytime you catch yourself overthinking, start humming or singing, all the song, you don’t know the lyrics? look online or make them up!

  • Jess Stuart

    Thinking is a fine line. I’ve worked with folks that have almost no foresight, and consequently make a lot of mistakes that should have been avoided. These people are constantly fighting fires of their own making, and are the direct cause of much wasted time and effort. Engineering requires a lot of negative thinking. If you don’t analyze what when wrong, you’re missing out on lots of improvement opportunities. When all the defects, bugs, needless complexity, disorganization, conflicting requirements, … become overwhelming, that’s when thinking more doesn’t benefit you. I try to realize when stuff “isn’t worth fixing”, and just accept that I’m going to have to live with it.

  • cyan

    hi, i have just realized that i overthink, alot. i decided i would look up on google how to avoid overthinking, (oh the magic of google) anyway, i found this article really amazing, i will surely use these steps in the future, i have had a problem with overthinking for as long as i can remember, im ready to move on and get away from it. thank you :)

  • Hannah Dianne Tolentino

    The topic is really delivered very well. I appreciate it! :) I hope it works on me too. Thank You!

  • Rob Foster

    Over thinking is the bane of my existence. My conclusion every time is step one three and four but i have recently changed my mind after 15 years (25 y old). As my life is just not fun compared to what i see around me, the amount of people i interact with on a regular basis is very limited, and opportunities i get in life are so often squandered, and what are small things to normal people become thought paralyzing thought processes that linger for months that interact with others to become a debilitating weight’s on my shoulders. I will try two and three as i think they will help with 6 but avoid one and four as they are not worth committing too.

  • Desperate girl

    Ive been overthinking a lot for the past 4 months about something that happened. I was at a show with my boyfriend and I realised he thought the singer of the band was hot. He litteraly abandonned me after the show to talk to her for two hours. I remember the way he looked at her when she was talking.. I remember the show and it hurts me so much. Some of your tricks in your article already help me , but concerning the last point… It will always matter… Next year, or even in ten years, it will always matter because my boyfriend will always love that band! What do i do for their next show!!! Help me!! ( the girl is leilindel from uneXpect if you wanted to know)

  • thisisokay

    I am a chronic overthinker, to the point where it’s completely ruining my life. It’s ruining my relationships, I have no friends, it’s ruining my job, I’m distant from my family, and now I’m having stress attacks that affect my heart and feel like heart attacks, and I’m in my mid 20s.

    This article must have been written by someone who thinks they overthink, but they really don’t….. it’s clear from a few of their points that they only wrote this based on theory, and only a small amount of experience.

    Some of it is good advice, some of it is the absolute worst and will worsen symptoms COMPLETELY!

    1) Talk to yourself:
    If you’re currently stuck in a cycle of thoughts, this is the WORST thing you can suggest. Any additional thoughts will be sucked into the vortex of thoughts already spinning through your head.

    Instead: do you best to STOP ALL THOUGHT. That means EVERYTHING. It’s called meditation. Sit or lay down, close your eyes, visually watch all the thoughts as written word or images. Watch the thoughts enter your mind and ALLOW THEM to exit. From the start they will be coming in a lot and it will feel like it’s on repeat anyhow, but with practice, you can clear your mind.

    2) Avoid situations and people that can lead to overthinking:
    This is the another of the stupidest ideas ever for people who overthink themselves into a frenzy. This advice translates to: avoid all social interaction, do your best to isolate yourself as much as you can, stop functioning at work, disconnect with your family, make a 2 year plan to become homeless, unhireable, and live in the woods by yourself. (If only!)

    Instead: Practice the meditation to quiet your mind as I said in 1) above, but in EVERY DAY situations. But you shouldn’t even attempt this step until you can do it well. alone in the quiet of your house. Once you clear your mind you’ll find interacting with others, or performing stressful tasks at work is much simpler since you’ll be living in the now. You’ll be able to focus on exactly what is happening at that very moment. It’s amazing.

    3) Distract yourself:
    This one is ONLY good if you find something that puts you in the state of flow. All other distractions will join you in your mess of thoughts. Exercise always helps everything, but if it doesn’t put you in the state of flow, it won’t be enough. Find that one thing, and make it a regular part of your life. You’ll know when it’s flow because you will think of nothing but the activity you’re doing, you’ll lose all sense of time – 1 second could feel like 5 or 10, you’re body will feel like an extension of your mind – you’ll feel your consciousness at your feet or fingertips, and if it’s something related to nature or the outdoors, you’ll feel the energy of the earth running through you.

    All the rest is good advice, but these ones I’ve mentioned about can do a LOT of damage if followed as suggested in the original post. So be careful.

  • jono

    This is a great article, all of my overthinking was causing me to procrastinate the start of my career as an agent. i kept thinking about all the negative possibilities that would happen and never happened, all of these “what if”‘s before I even tried anything. What helped me the most was reading everybody’s comments and experiences with this problem. Knowing that im not alone in this gives me the confidence to move foward. what you did here was great, by posting this comment im commiting to calming the fuck down to getting the hell out of my comfort zone.i greatly appreciate what you have done here. My name is jonothan and i am an overthinker.

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  • Unknown

    Actually I too think I’m over-thinking. One good friend of mine told that I’m worrying about this for no reason as no one thinks bad about me. Yet I feel down. I have sleepless nights because of thinking what other people think about me.

  • JohnnyDeppsBaby

    its not really working. I’m overthinking all my feelings and emotions to the point where its all I can think about. Its destroying how I view everything

  • shariq

    what the fuck i am?????? what what am i????

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  • Terry

    Thank you for your time and input. I will practice these steps and will definitely let you know the result. I tend to over think in my relationship. I am the type of person who wants to do the best that I can, so I won’t have any regrets. I don’t drink or smoke or do any kind of drugs, maybe that’s why I am a bit uptight and one track minded. Once I say something, I am going to get it done. I am a girl of my word and my commitment level is absolute. All of that makes me over think that my partner is not as serious, or at least, doesn’t take me as serious. Obviously he has committed himself to me, leaving his family behind, saving up and moving to another country with me to settle down, that is a huge commitment. However, in daily life, he often does silly boy things that constantly makes me doubt his commitment and it really shaking my trust with him, given the temptations, will he able to control himself in the future that we are planning together. That’s why I tend to over think his action to analyze what it really implies, what it really represents… his principles, his promises, his self control… I have never been an overthinker before I met him. Or I am just a sucker for him.

  • akash

    Thanks for the article, i tend to over think into many things on the personal front . however is there anyway one can find out why is it that we over think like this ? i want to overcome this because i cannot afford to lose the special people in my life because of this problem i have.

    • akash

      and the other thing that happens is i start getting a head ache when i know im over thinking and over reading into the situations, i know that i have over reacted after its all broken loose…many a times i try to go and wash my face with cold water as a distraction.

  • shye

    doesnt fucking work

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  • Oscar Cosmos

    I am not happy with my life, i feel like my head is more than overthinking and i was not like be fore, i dont have the ability of remambering things, i forget each moment i feel like i am not me! i loose consetration when i am having a conversation, i dont have happyness, i am alwasy ugly and angry i cant determine the up coming things. It almost drive me like mad person,sometime i loose the ability of proper thinking.

  • Tim Clay

    I couldn’t even read all of this only because who ever wrote this makes it sound like we have the choice to overthink or not, its really not simple, I’ve been an overthinker for as long as I can remember and it never seems to get better no matter how hard I try to stop.

  • Arthur

    basically everyone have to come up with a method of his own to stop over-thinking, in severe cases you are trapped and are healed through meditation and medication, for me I tried using the method of describing whatever I was seeing through my eyes, if I would see a chair my mind would describe the chair etc etc, or I would focus on some other sense or just try to think about the word ‘blank’ and make my mind empty

  • dosh22

    Over thinking has been a big thing in my life, it has caused me to think and think and think about a situation to the point where i feel that “i cant do it” or that “It’ll be terrible” or even “i’ll look like an idiot” but after reading this article i feel better about things and now realize my problems and can face them, because i can isolate the problems and then deal with them instead of lay in my bed and whine and keep thinking about my problems. All i have to say is that even though i only read this article about 5 minutes ago i feel as if i will be able to finally overcome this problem and actually be able to do things without my subconscious telling me that i will fail or look like an idiot.

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  • tizzzy

    i wish i could train myself and not over think all the overthinkinking I have done .I refuse thereapty cause i don”t trust doctors but over thinking is killing me and everyone around me, Atleast we aren:t robots, I know my spelling sucks but my eyes are acting up so no one comment on that I don:t want to hear it. It sucks to be stuck but i don:t want to be a zombie from medication, someone give me advice

  • J Sinner Christen

    This advice looks great on paper. As an over-thinker with an actual documented disability, my over-thinking causes me to fall into severe social anxiety, very few of these steps can be applied. The problem lies in our thought process. If we ask ourselves any of these questions it only opens more doors to dwell on. (BTW: I have erased and rewrote this statement a couple of times and still am not sure it’s what I want to say.)

  • Mohammed Ismail

    I was just thinking of thinking and then when i was thinking all the angles of thinking i thought of over thinking and over thinking my overthinking problem i googled overthinking THINKCEPTION

  • Jasper Long

    #2 is not easy – - as I sit home over thinking of what I “could” do.
    Although – reading some comments – we need to keep in mind Over-thinking is a symptom of a bigger issue. That issue could be different to many.. (guilt, fear of being hurt, fear of not accomplishing anything, fear of failure, fear of what it looks like doing something alone – low self esteem…etc..)
    The occasional xanax may be needed and works well at the right dose… none of the 5HTP or St. John’s or teas don’t help.

    Good article – but not easy when it’s neurotic to over-think and thus it’s easier with help (someone or medication and/or therapy)

  • Angel

    Damn it feels good to know that there are other people out there struggling like me… I mean, it makes me feel sad for everyone because it’s not a good thing… XD But it feels good to not be alone. I’ve been feeling depressed on and off for the past month and a half. I’ve always been a deep thinker, but never like this. Never to the point where I overthink every single thing whether it matters in my life or not… It’s been changing me for the worse.. from an emotional, optimistic, passionate, [insert other positive word here] person to someone who gets depressed easily, demotivated, and is becoming somewhat emotionally detached (which I absolutely don’t want!!). And all you commenters seem amazing. Intelligent and seriously on the same path of struggle that I’m on. I’m going to learn how to “turn my brain off” and just enjoy the moment. Thanks so much for your tips, Mike!

  • Kathy Katona McIntosh

    The most ridiculous article I’ve ever read. Why not add, “hey, just sleep on it but try not to think about oversleeping.” People who overthink ALREADY KNOW they are obsessing about something. How? WE HAVE THOUGHT ABOUT IT. Good grief. It is the thought process of trying to eliminate the stress that causes “ad nauseam” thinking. Stress and the feeling that you lack control in some aspect of your life can lead to repetitive thinking and behaviour. This is called Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Re-read this article and replace each “overthinking” with the word stress/stressful situation, and you will realize you’ve read this all before. Now, stop thinking about it. ;)

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